There can no longer be a debate about holding infants “spoiling them” in light of new research from the University of British Columbia, which suggests that infants who are held more frequently are positively affected at the molecular level.
There can no longer be a debate about whether or not holding infants "spoils them", especially in light of new research from the University of British Columbia, which suggests that infants who are held more frequently are positively affected at the molecular level. What we should be discussing, instead, is how we can make the world more conducive to holding our babies, and taking them with us everywhere. I believe that it begins with supporting the mother, so that she can support her child.
When I opened Evymama in 2007, it was with my second child in a baby sling on my hip. In fact, the whole reason for opening the first shop was that my first child (now aged 13) had been a fussy baby who needed to be held all of the time, due to the reflux that she suffered from. I dreamed of a shop that would let me have my baby with me in a carrier as I worked, and finally decided that I needed to open such a shop myself. I opened Evymama, and over the years, several other mothers worked in my store with their babies in a sling, most notably Heidi McDonald, who still manages my shop to this day. Her daughter Abigail is close in age to my son Remy, now 11.
I saw a real shift towards baby wearing in particular over the next several years after the birth of Evymama. It seemed widely accepted that responsive parenting was the best choice for the developing infant. This was the Attachment Parenting wave that I lived and mothered in with my first two children. We co-slept, and they breastfed until they weaned themselves. I practiced elimination communication with them both, and used infant sign language in our daily activities.
As I bring up my next two babies, aged 2.5 years, and 3 months, I’m simultaneously introducing more and more programs at Evymama which support the mother-baby dyad specifically, and parents and their children in general in our new, larger facility. I’m constantly looking for new programs and ways to support the kind of loving attention and communication that is required for the earliest stages of a child’s life.
We look forward to seeing your family at Evymama this Spring, and we hope that if you know of a program that you’d like to see us offer, you’ll let us know. We’re still here to help today as we were 11 years ago.
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